June 2024

Steven is a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist in private practice. He trained at the Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships in 2006 then went on to complete the London Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy with a distinction; and then with Bader & Pearson at The Couple's Institute in California, and is about to train with StopSO, with a view to working with sexual offenders, those at risk, and their partners/families.

Photo of visiting tutor Steven Hayward

His primary therapeutic lens is attachment theory and its strong links with neuroscience (mainly from the work of Allan Schore and the concept of Right Brain Psychotherapy). He believes that affect regulation is at the core of everything we do in psychotherapy but also believes in the importance of promoting and educating our clients on their general well-being with subjects like nutrition, gut health, movement, sleep, good attachments and connections, mindfulness, the pursuit of meaning, truthfulness and authenticity, a sound epistemology, and our connections with nature.

Steven works with young men with a variety of erection, ejaculation, and relationship concerns. This has led him to look at what it means to be male/masculine in the western cultures and the challenges of growing up in society where boys are not just raised differently, but develop differently, and have unique challenges to their psychological health and well-being.

Before being a therapist Steven worked in IT and helped design some of the worlds largest networks. Steven holds a blackbelt in combat karate, has played guitar semi-professionally for thirty years, and has an unhealthy obsession with Rubik's Cubes (where he can solve any cube in about 20 seconds).